Communication

This is the best thing for every relationship, it can either save the relationship or end it on good terms. When communicating, don’t just hear, listen and understand before you answer. For effective communication, you must understand as best as you can why that individual would say that about you or have that specific problem.

For good communication ,first, find the problem(the root of all the drama). The person who brought across the problem has the right to speak first, and try to listen until he or she finishes speak, you can ask what they think should be done since it’s their problem they should have a solution, if they don’t, you can suggestion one and you’re gonna ask me “What if they don’t like the suggestion?”, well let them find the solution or you can try again. It’s yall against the problem not against each other. Behind every action there is always a reason, might not be good for you but maybe for them.

Body posture speaks for you even when you’re not conscious of it you give off the vibe that either your not interested or giving them the attention. Sometimes they won’t know that their posture is giving that vibe. Even if you are not in the mood, unless you are drained then give them the attention to the problem.

Try finding how they handle a problem, one person might handle it by being quite or ranting about it until their lungs are out of breathe, when you find out how they handle their problem it will be easier for you to adjust to it and work with it.

One more thing, when communicating try to keep your emotions in check because it can turn from 0 to 100 real quick if you say something you aren’t suppose to say and if that happens try to remember that they have been holding it in too long and just means they were hurting too much that it couldn’t be contained and don’t blame them for holding it from you. Maybe they don’t know how to tell you or couldn’t find a good opportunity to tell you or don’t know how to express it.